I’ve been quietly suffering a broken heart all week. My close friend and confidant, Shannon, picked up and moved across the Atlantic Ocean.
I’m so happy for her, of course, but I’m also devastated. Goddamnit, Shannon.
I’ve found friendships in my twenties to be completely new territory. For the first time, I’m making friends entirely on my own accord. It may sound silly, but think about it: up until college, friendships are more or less handed to you. You hit it off in math class or become best friends on the playground. Even in college, you find friends in your dorm or waiting in line for waffles.
And then suddenly you’re on your own. Even small things like asking for a new friend’s number can be intimidating and nerve-wracking, and the first few hang-outs can feel like dates as you get to know one another (“You’re a vegetarian?” “What do your parents do?” “I can’t stomach vodka, either!”). I clearly remember the first friend I made right out of college — we kept bumping into each other walking our dogs in the park and finally exchanged numbers. I had little butterflies afterwards, it was so thrilling!
But here’s the tricky part: the twenties are such a touch and go time — everyone is trying out different jobs and bouncing around and no one is really settled. Friends come and go constantly, and it can actually be kind of taxing with so much up in the air. If you’re in your twenties, do you ever feel this way? How do you stay in touch with friends? Shannon, I miss you already. Xoxo