Should I Go on Vacation With My Parents?

Last night, my parents generously invited me to join them on their warm and sunny vacation planned for January 2015. Here are my thoughts…

Now that I’m in my 20’s, my relationship with my parents is like nothing I’ve ever experienced. There are really no words to describe it — if  you’ve been there, then you know what I’m talking about. If you’re not quite there, YOU WILL SEE. No need to rush it. Really.

One word that comes to mind is confusing. One second you’re like, please stop asking me about my five year plan, and the next second you’re like, umm…what’s for dinner?  You want them to be your parents but then you want them to be your friends but then you want them to keep your room the way it’s always been because WHAT IF I COME HOME, WHERE WILL I STAY?!

Meanwhile, I imagine its hard for them, too. One second they’re like, fly, bird, fly…and the next, they’re like – WAIT, CRAP, I FORGOT TO TELL YOU….these paper towels may be less expensive but they don’t have as many sheets as these paper towels, so you’d actually end up saving money buying the ones that are a tad more expensive….

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It’s incredibly sweet for them to include me. They could have just made it a romantic (ew), low key vacation for just the two of them, but instead, they’re offering to take me along for the ride. I’m in, I think, and I’m pretty sure I’ll have a great time. But I wanted to ask you guys first: would you do it?  Is there something that I don’t know about going on vacation with your parents in your 20’s?

Top image by Julian Goldstein 

8 thoughts on “Should I Go on Vacation With My Parents?

  1. Do it!!! I think, now that we’re grown-ups, parent dynamics are inevitably different, but they’re still the ones that raised you to be the person you are, living the kind of life you do, making the kind of choices you make, and in that sense you’re very much still their lil kid! Plus, hey, vacation. 🙂

  2. Go! I am your parents age now, but remember feeling just like you do when I was in my 20’s. Back then I went on several trips with my mom that I will always cherish. We had a blast and still laugh about them. And you never get over that wanting to keep your room intact, I’ve never even lived in the house my mom lives in and is thinking of downsizing from and I’m having trouble with that! Enjoy your parents while they are here, love the fact that they love you enough to want you along, schedule some time apart for breathing room and have a blast!

  3. Do it. The great thing about vacationing with your parents at this age is that you don’t have to do everything together. So if you find you are driving each other a bit crazy, then go take the day off from them and do a solo activity. You’re old enough that you also know how to be a solo traveler so you don’t have to feel trapped in their itinerary. Plus at this age we don’t exactly have a lot of money, so let your parents take you out and spoil you. It will let you do things on your vacation you wouldn’t get to do otherwise.

  4. Definitely do it. I’m 28, and last year I went along with my parents for their annual trip to Mexico, and it was incredible. I think there is no ulterior motives in inviting you — it’s a time in your life where you can really enjoy each other’s company as adults. And you are old enough to go off on your own whenever you need a break from them.

    I know that I tend to revert a little when I’m with my parents for too long. It’s easy to slip back into childish habits of not wanting to pay for things or be responsible for stuff. But it’s important to have these interactions and trips with your parents, with no strings attached, to find out what kind of adult you’re really becoming.

  5. Yep, do it! Last year, my parents invited me to their Paris (?!?!) trip. I hesitated a lot. But at the end we went there together and guess what? We had so much fun.

  6. “One second you’re like, please stop asking me about my five year plan, and the next second you’re like, umm…what’s for dinner? You want them to be your parents but then you want them to be your friends but then you want them to keep your room the way it’s always been because WHAT IF I COME HOME, WHERE WILL I STAY?!” <—YES. Yes, yes, yes! Exactly yes.

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