Eeek! I’m Moving.

I’m very happy to share some news. I’m moving back to New York City! I’ve been entertaining the idea for quite some time now, but things finally clicked into place and I’m excited to head back to the hustle and bustle of NYC. Of course, I’m also anxious about the transition, and the stress has already crept in and shown itself in various, unexpected ways (oh stress, you’re so cute the way you do that).

Over the past few years, I have been waiting for the day to arrive when I would feel fully and completely ready to move. I assumed it would as obvious as a letter in my mailbox saying, “Hi Joy, yup, time to pack up!” and that would be that. I waited…and waited…but it wasn’t happening. To be honest, I don’t think that day will ever come for me here. Woods Hole is beautiful, but beyond that, it’s protected, and safe. I have overheard people describe it as a womb; it has that comforting, safe, nothing-bad-will-ever-happen vibe that attracts homebodies like me and cocoons us into a fuzzy bliss of wool socks and 9pm bedtimes. Don’t get me wrong. It’s one of the loveliest places on earth. But it also is a place for me to quietly exist alongside my fears and doubts and never truly face them. If there’s something that I’ve learned in my six years living here, it’s that fear plays a big role in my life. I don’t know when I became so allergic to failure, but I’m trying my darnedest to kick it.

For me, that means jumping in before I feel ready, and leaving despite the anchors that hold me here. It’s time, you guys! I will be starting a new job in a new field (excited to share more about that later), and living that NYC life. I can already smell the subway. And those roasted peanut stands. And for the first time in a longtime I feel truly okay with not knowing in the SLIGHTEST how things are going to turn out. I’m channeling my inner Mary Tyler Moore. After all, this is technically the first time I’ll be living in New York as an adult.

Now that the move is quickly approaching, I wanted to ask you guys: have you moved recently? How are you doing? Any tips or words of advice? My friend keeps reminding me that nothing is ever permanent. And finally, if any New York readers want to get together once I’m settled, I would love to meet you! Let me know and we will make it happen. 🙂


19 thoughts on “Eeek! I’m Moving.

  1. Congratulations! I love reading your blog. I have been a long time cup of jo fan and came across your blog from a “links I love” post. Please don’t stop writing! Good luck with your move. I wish I had some sort of sage advice about moving and moving forward and looking forward and not looking back and everything is going to be OK etc etc etc. But you already know all of that. My advice is to throw away every single thing you possibly, possibly can. You’ll thank me later 🙂

    • Abby, thank you so much for your sweet comment. And GOOD advice re: purging! It’s felt really good to throw things away, especially knowing that my closet space is about to significantly shrink, haha. Thanks for reading!

  2. Joy! Your relationship with fear is the exact same as mine (thanks NYC for making me realize that). I’m so excited to have a kindred spirit in NY with me. Let’s grab drinks once you’re settled xx

  3. Just thought I’d pop up to say hi! I also discovered your blog through Cup of Jo and instantly felt a kindred spirit (went to Lawrence University in WI and recently moved to the Upper West Side). After many years in Chicago I finally made the leap a year ago and moved to NYC. My first year was in Bushwick, a treeless place, and I dreamed of moving to New England some day. Still do! Not that I regret NYC – it was something I had to do. Sounds like it’s something you have to do too. 🙂 Anyway, welcome back!

  4. Congrats Joy! Change is always hard, but good things wait on the other side! Are you moving with your boyfriend, doing long distance, breaking up? As someone going through change with in a relationship, I’d love to hear.

    • Elisabeth, hi! Gooood question. My boyfriend will be staying on Cape for now (where he has a job he loves) and we will be doing long distance. It will be a transition for sure, but funnily, I’m not that worried about it. We’re both super independent people and enjoy time apart as much as we enjoy time together. I always joke that I want a “weekend husband,” so it kind of works out perfectly for now :). Of course, I don’t doubt there will be some hard times or issues to work through! Sending you love as you work through a change in your own relationship. Shoot me an email if you want to talk about it. xo

  5. Omg!!! YAY! Hope the preparation is going well–hang in there! A new season, a new adventure. I’ve been dealing with similar feelings (fear, doubt) lately, but I think I’m going to take the plunge. You’re right, best to do it before you psych yourself out 🙂 Would love to meet up when you’re settled! <3 xo

  6. Yay! Congratulations Joy! I’ve been a longtime reader (first time commenter) and I’m so happy to hear you’re headed back to NY. So excited for you and this new adventure. I made the move about two years ago and don’t regret it once, even though it was so overwhelming. I’d love to help out and organize a NY group hang so we can all meet and celebrate you!

    • Hi Lyanne! So good to hear from you — I’m glad you commented! That is so sweet an offer to help organize a group hang. I think it will be really fun. All my readers seem like the loveliest girls. It’s kind of my dream for us all to best friends haha! I’ll post something once I’m settled and we’ll figure out how to make this happen. XO

  7. Hi Joy! Congratulations on the move!!! Fall is the best in NYC 🙂 I’ve been a long time reader. I discovered your blog through Cup of Jo., and have since considered you a very kindred spirit. I lived on the UWS for 14 years, but just moved uptown to Harlem at the beginning of this month. I would love to meet up either in group form or we can always make aTrader Joe’s run in Jersey (I have a car!)….it’s such a nicer shopping experience than the one on 72nd street 😳. Good luck with the move 👍

    • Julie, hi!!! That is amazing you have a car and that you go to Trader Joe’s in Jersey. We are definitely kindred spirits! And I’m on 123rd now so we’re also neighbors :). Will definitely do a “meet up” soon so stay posted!! xo

      • Yay!! You’re going to love the neighborhood. We’ve been exploring a bit and found this awesome pizza spot called Sottocasa on 121st and Malcolm X. The owners are adorable and the Diavola pizza is probably one of the best I’ve ever had. There’s also Sugar Hill Creamery on 119th. They make their ice cream fresh every day 🙂 Everything just feels so “neighborhood-y” here. …And the doors! Maybe it’s a strange thing to notice, but the doors in Harlem are so beautiful! Enjoy! Xo

  8. How exciting! Congratulations! It’s been so fun to pop over to your blog every once in a while and see your Cape Cod adventures, but I’m equally excited to see your New York ones. I moved to Brooklyn (though I work in Manhattan) a year ago and I’m definitely still getting used to the chaos of city life. Would love to be part of a reader get together sometime!

  9. Long time reader here as well. I’m finally catching up on all my subscribed blog posts, and I have just moved from DC back to LA. Congratulations! Will Juniper be with you? My gf just recently moved to NY, and she brought her lil pup (Olive) with her..and she was just telling me that she is LOVING the city. Best of luck!

    • Hey Tee! Good to hear from you :). Yes I brought Juniper!! Pls tell your friend that I will be hosting a little reader get together soon in NYC and she is more than welcome to join! We can talk pups – and I’m curious how she’s managing with the dog in the city. Also, congrats on your move! My gf is in LA right now and I’ve always wanted to visit. Seems like such a fun place to live. Good luck adjusting and thanks for stopping by!!xo

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